Top 7 Reasons People Get Discouraged Easily

Do you often get so excited about pursuing a goal, a project or a dream but get easily discouraged because the results you expect do not come quickly enough or the negative opinions of others basically sap your energy and enthusiasm? Do you feel you lack the tenacity to follow through? This article might be useful to you.

To start with, let me assure you that you are not the only one in this situation. Over 95% of the population in any country of the world fall into this category. Discouragement is one of the biggest obstacles to success.

But there is good news for you. You can join the top 3% who have defied the negative force of discouragement to attain unbelievable levels of success. Success has formulae – all of which are learnable. So if you are willing to learn and to put what you learn into practice – you will soar above the winds of disappointment and become stabilised at the height of accomplishments.

Now, Let us look at some of the possible causes of discouragement and what can be done to overcome them:

Possible Causes & Solutions:

1)      Lack of Clearer Vision:

This is where everything begins. If you do not know what exactly you want, you will live your entire life being controlled by the opinions of others. Every human contains a powerful success mechanism – which is goal-striving. And it only becomes activated when a clear goal is in view. So sit down and decide what you really want to accomplish. Do not borrow another person’s dream. Set your life goal and believe in its possibility. If you are not passionate and convinced enough about where you are going in life, someone else will succeed in convincing you to look the other way.

You may have already got a clear vision. that’s great! Never stop visualising its competition in your mind. And keep advancing in the right direction daily, no matter how small the step you are taking may be.

Here are the words of one of the greatest success experts of our time – Brian Tracy; “All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” Great achievers simply begin with a clear cut vision of where they wanted to be.

Now, a little bit about setting a life goal, ensure what you have chosen is congruent or in harmony with your talents and passion. You will not be able to endure in an undertaking beyond the level of your love and passion for that venture. Make sure what you build your life around is what you really enjoy doing. “A goal properly set is halfway reached,” said Zig Ziglar.

Secondly, set small and realistic daily goals to move you towards your major goal. Human brains are extremely adaptive. The only way to re-wire your brain to identify itself with success is by collecting small successes. Set small and achievable goals – so that each time you complete them and succeed – you send success signals to your brain. And in no time, you brain reprograms re-tunes itself for success – having memorised various recent success patterns. This then makes you feel better about yourself. You become happier and have more energy to keep advancing.

2)      The Ego (inner pride) and Fear of Failure:

I combine these two elements because they are interrelated. We fear failure because we resent how it makes our ego feels. The ego is the false self carved by our wrong perceptions of the expectations of others about us. After the ego is completely formed, your subconscious mind begins to raise a danger alarm against any undertaking that may potentially challenge or hurt our so called “Ego” or “false Self”. That is why you would rather shrink back from starting a project and let the poor dog lies, than experience the pain of failure.

Unless you detach yourself from the false self, the true self, who is creative, energetic and result-driven, cannot emerge. Highly successful people are those who have tamed their ego and are willing to take the next available actions even in the face of fear and discouragement. Their intention is to fail quicker so that they now what works or doesn’t work so that they can move on. They keep learning and growing – knowing very well that failure is merely feedback to use to correct courses. They are more passionate to succeed than their fear of failure or momentary disappointment. “They understand the wise words of Bill Cosby that says,  “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” 

Ego is the enemy of advancement. It is important that you make up your mind to disengage identifying with your ego. Refuse to let pride stop you from taking positive actions that will liberate you from mediocrity. Reprogram your mind through positive affirmations. Declare yourself as someone who loves to learn, is courageous, resilient and the one who finishes what he starts.

3)      Poor Perceptions About Success:

For some, this is the reason why they get discouraged easily – they never really understand how success happens. At school, we were taught how to read, write, solve simple arithmetic etc. But nobody taught us how to succeed. I remember, as a little boy, thinking that success just happens to people like magic without having to do anything. Success is a skill that must be learnt – just like any other life’s skill such as riding a bike, or swimming.

So I recommend you start learning skills for success – there are a lot of success coaches and materials out there for those who are willing to learn. Discouragement is inevitable when you do know “how” and what it takes to succeed. Success will require, amongst others, courage, perspiration, faith, patience, quality leaning. “Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success,” said Napoleon Hill. Your success will require more than desire, you will have to cultivate valuable skills necessary for high achievements. Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration,” right said by Thomas A. Edison.

Also, there will be plenty of challenges and failures on your way to achieving your goals. But always remember that failures are simply feedback mechanisms – they are there not to corrode your course and make you quit, but to correct your course.

4)      Negative Mental Attitude:

Your mental attitude set the height of your perseverance in any given situation. If the attitude of your mind is negative, it will repel any action that is not consistent with its contents. And since accomplishing a goal is positive, it has no chance to survive because of the powerful resistance coming from your mental attitude. Your mind-set controls your productivity. When you choose a mind-set, you choose a future.

If you’ve already been convinced subconsciously that you will not succeed in what you are starting, your outcome will simply confirm it – in the name of the overwhelming discouragement that you feel. “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude,” Said Thomas Jefferson.

5)      Unhealthy Inner Chattering:

This is arguably one of the most important skills to master in life – How to communicate effectively with yourself. Whether you know it or not – you are always dialoguing with yourself – asking questions and answering questions. If the questions you are asking are negative, they automatically attract negative answers – which will then disrupt your focus and send distress signals to the body, secreting feelings of discouragement.

If you ask a question such as “Why is it that I am a failure?” You will probably get an answer such as “Because that’s what you are.” So the key skill here is to ask positive and constructive questions such as “How can I be successful? What can I do to achieve? Who can I learn from? What can I learn from this set back?” Master how to give positive answers to all your negative thoughts. Ensure no internal dialogue within you is ended without you coming out in victory. Dominate your inner chattering; it is the key for winning. Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results,” said Willie Nelson.

6)      Past Painful Memories:

Your brain was designed to remember past pains and to alert you against going through the same painful experience. But it is your responsibility to override the fearful memory of the past with the possibilities of today. Give up your past failure history and see today as the first day of the rest of your life. In order to BREAKTHROUGH into your FUTURE, you will have to BREAK LOOSE from your PAST. Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Use your past pain and failures as springboards to your greatness. There is PURPOSE in every painful experience you have been through. “We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future,” said George Bernard Shaw. Those who live in the past cannot leap into the future. Scrutinize the past only for the wisdom it contains, then advance boldly in the directions of your goals.

7)      Wrong Associations:

If those you hang out with have no vision, their first assignment is to talk you out of yours. Your association will always determine your acceleration. In fact, research shows most people eventually earn between two to three thousand pounds more or less than their closest friends’ earnings. The quality of your association determines the quality of your life. It’s even mentioned in the bible that, “Those who walk with the wise shall become wise; but the companions of fools will be destroyed.” Wrong association is very costly – more costly than anyone is telling us.

What you want to do is to identify quality friends whose vision, passion, and energy are in harmony with yours. Walk away from friends whose only advice is that of discouragement. They do not belong in your future those in whose presence your energy, confidence and motivation diminish.

I hope these seven causes and solutions of the question above have added something positive to you. If you enjoy this article, please share it to others using the share buttons below. Also leave your comment. Let me know what you think about the above tips or about your suggested tips or your personal experience with discouragement.

Regards

Wale

P.S: For anxiety attacks, panic attacks, depression, chronic stress, OCD, GAD and other anxiety disorders, you can download my FREE ebook: The Essential Guide To Anxiety Panic Recovery here.

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