Depression is a brain-driven, biochemical condition that affects key neurotransmitters involved in motivation, pleasure, mood and cognition. If you suffer from depression, your brain is heavily involved in your depressive symptoms. This means that you cannot blame yourself for your inability to feel pleasure, think straight or self-motivate. Feelings of guilt, shame, hopelessness, uselessness, self-criticism, self-condemnation and self-mutilation are typical in major depressive episodes, but this must be put in context that can stimulate recovery and not truncate it. In this short video, I share a few things you must know to initiate your recovery journey. Continue reading
Anxiety is a physiological state of survival that can be extremely debilitating. In dealing with anxiety, however, the key insights that can initiate better management and coping skills might be simpler than you think. It turns out that it begins with right understanding. In this short clip, I share 3 things you should be aware of in order to deal with anxiety more effectively. Continue reading
Anxiety is actually your friend, your ancient survival friend, and not your enemy. While life's negative experiences may readapt the anxiety centre to work harder than normal and get mistaken for a foe, it does not have to stay like that and permanently become the boss of the psyche. In this short video, I share how you can initiate a healthy reconditioning process for your ancient friend - anxiety. Continue reading
Here, I answer one of the commonly asked questions on anxiety; 'Do I have anxiety?' Anxiety is a natural survival energy, but if mobilised too much it can wreak havoc within our emotional, physical and mental states. Continue reading
What is Anxiety? In this video, I share about what anxiety is, anxiety symptoms and what you can start to do immediately to develop a healthy relationship with your anxiety centre for anxiety recovery, mental wellness and emotional resilience. Continue reading
Humans are creatures of relationships. Without supportive and loving others around us, the human mind cannot survive long. Neonates maladapt in the absence of emotionally attuned and available primary care-givers. Likewise, adults can fall apart when the most important relationships in their world become irreparable. It's been said that almost all psychiatric/psychological disorders began as a relationship problem; be it the love totally withheld, conditionally given or a substitute relationship with addictive substances, such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, and so on. The quality of your close relationships decides your mental wellness or stress. In fact, relationship is thought to account for Continue reading
Anger is an adaptive survival energy that has been part of our innate coping mechanisms as humans. If safely and properly channeled, it could be a potent force for change. For example, thousands of charitable causes have been established as a result of redirected anger for the common good. Likewise, millions of relationships have been salvaged because someone somehow refused to let the survival brain overpower the rational, relational and logical brain in the heat of the moment. Although anger can be a powerful force for change, it can also be extremely destructive if handled wrongly and allowed to become Continue reading
Your fight/flight response is an adaptive survival energy that gets triggered whenever you're threatened or stressed. If you get stressed out a lot, that means your stress response is probably working too hard. This is something you have to do something about if you are to maintain or regain wellness. Why? Simply because overactive and chronic stress response has been linked to a variety of biological and mental health issues including cardiovascular dysfunction, digestive issues, hypertension, diabetes, Alzheimer's disease, obesity, anxiety, depression, etc. By turning on your stress response for too long without viable outlets for turning it off, the Continue reading
There are two regions of the brain critical to memory formation and retrieval; the pre-frontal cortex (PFC) and the hippocampus. The PFC, the boss of the psyche, encodes memory via the excitations of its numerous synaptic networks, while the hippocamus, often refered to as the major memory centre, consolidates memories through its short-term and long-term memory compatments. Unfortunately, chronic stress exposure, including repeated trauma, affects these two regions of the brain. Under intense stressors, the PFC loses its neuronal access to integrative memories that could have prevented a cascade of fight-or-flight responses, while the hippocampus' nervous projections shrivel and retract Continue reading
The part of the brain that is heavily involved in survival activities is also involved in mediating appetite. This means that trauma or stress can dysregulate the neuro-physiological networks involved in the regulation of appetite, leading to maladaptation. For example, acutely stress out a lab rat and it becomes hypophagic (its appetite is surpressed). Chronically stress out the same rat (please don't try this at home?) and it becomes hyperphagic(its appetite is stimulated). Although this process is also applicable to humans, it is far from straightforward as humans are extremely complex. There are several factors that can mediate whether Continue reading
Your body is a powerful biofeedback device. It communicates with your awareness centre about your state of being. The term 'soma' is a Greek word that means 'body.' The subconscious intelligence of the body that evaluates environmental and viscera risk factors while alerting the brain accordingly via its sensory nerves is what is referred to as The Somatic Intelligence. Your somatic intelligence is designed to draw your attention to a potentially state of unease before it becomes a full blown disorder. Unfortunately, many of us override or are complete unaware of our bodily cues to self-regulate. This could lead to Continue reading
Do you know that regular singing can help you manage anxiety and stress? Singing aloud is perhaps one of the most underrated stress management activities. Singing is a powerful neuro-exercise that has the ability to not only change your mood but also your physiological state. The management of your exhalation (out-breathe) that is consistent with singing aloud triggers a neuro-regulation of safety in your heart’s pacemaker, leading to a physiological shift from a defensive mode of stress to a safety mode of relaxation, tranquility and healing. In this clip, I explain in detail how this process works and how singing Continue reading
Like many modern cars that are equipped with an adaptive cruise-control with the capability to know when to cruise, accelerate, slow down or shutdown, the human nervous system contains an inbuilt adaptive mechanism that constantly evaluates risks and safety in your environment to determine whether or not it should cruise, mobilise or immobilise survival energy. In humans, the immobilisation defence system (such as, dissociation, numbness, passing out, frozenness, vasovagal syncope etc.) is as crucial for survival as the mobilisation defence system (such as, hyperarousal, hyper-vigilance, insomnia, panic attacks and anxiety, etc.). These two systems are designed to enhance your chances Continue reading
Your physical and emotional wellness is strongly connected to the quality of your social affiliations. The brain is a relational organ that requires constant social interactions to stay in a positive state that supports cognitive and emotional resilience. The resiliency of your entire nervous system is encoded in its regular cues of safety and love it derives from its environment. Social isolation is by far a bigger risk factor regarding shorter life expectancy than smoking, obesity, diabetes or even hypertension. Humans rapidly degenerate into an immuno-suppressive state in an environment of chronic social deprivation. Isolation compromises your immunity and leaves Continue reading
If you missed my Q&A session on mental health, you can catch up here. Continue reading
Hope is the unwillingness to give up on life in spite of raging adversities. It is the resolution to continue to climb the upward-steps of life, even though you can’t see the entire stair-case. Hope is not just psychological, it is also bio-chemical, meaning that it can readapt your cognition, emotions and physiology. Hope affects almost all the hormones/neurotransmitters in your body, including your stress hormones, growth hormones, reproductive hormones, sex hormones, motivation hormones, and so on. In fact, your entire endocrine system is at the mercy of your willingness or unwillingness to hold-on to hope when the goings of Continue reading
[Please Note: This clip contains some background noises as it was recorded while on a trip to the beautiful Linton Falls in West Yorkshire] Stress is an adaptive response of the body to a perceived threat. Your stress response (fight-flight-freeze response) is an attempt of the nervous system to enhance your chances of survival. Although the neuro-physiological mechanism of your stress response is largely automatic, humans have an enduring capacity to mediate and influence the autonomic stress response through the power of mindful awareness and relaxation-based activities. You can learn to manually interrupt your fight/flight cycle by initiating a neurophysiological Continue reading
Your body is the external interpreter of your internal emotions. Whatever repressed emotions or feelings you continue to repress will eventually find their expression through your somatic (bodily) symptoms. In stressful moments of life, listening to your body is critical to diminishing the hyperarousal of your body that is often induced by the over-activation of the fight-or-flight response. By listening to your body and accurately evaluating its basic, adaptive and homeostatic needs at a given time (e.g. rest, sleep, water, food, exercise, social interaction, self-compassion, self-care, relaxation, gratitude, support, respite, appreciation, solitude. etc.) and meeting that need as much as Continue reading
Productivity is always connected to levels of happiness, although few people will admit it. Humans are creatures of momentum. Stagnation suffocates self-fulfilment and stifles serendipity. Two parameters are key to gauging your happiness-meter in life; progress and relationships. The degree to which you think your life is moving forward will influence your subjective assessment for personal happiness. Similarly, the quality of your close relationships will decide your stress or happiness levels. In this 60 sec video, I focus on the science of progress and share a simple but powerful key to improving productivity, thereby boosting the readings on your happiness-meter. Continue reading
Here I answered the questions of our audience on OCD, anxiety disorder, addiction, trauma and other anxiety-related conditions. Learn about the neurobiology of anxiety, OCD and addiction in an engaging and easy-to-understand way. Continue reading
Anxiety is a positive energy that requires leadership. The ultimate purpose of your anxiety pathway is to enhance your chances for survival in any threatening situation. However, if the stressor persists for too long, healthy anxiety can deplete its adaptive energy and become toxic, thereby micromanaging your mind and emotions with elevated stress hormones. A resultant effect of this could be exaggerated anxiety symptoms. Now, what is worth mentioning here is that your unbearable symptoms of anxiety are still an attempt of your stress response to restore internal order and homeostasis. Therefore, a specific cooperative action is required on your Continue reading
Depression is a neuro-biochemical condition that has been found to affect key neurotransmitters and regions of the brain involved in emotions, cognition, pleasure and motivation. It is therefore unfair to blame your depression on the weakness of your character or lack of willpower. Here is why in 60 sec. Continue reading
The hallmark of wellness is knowing how and when to turn off your stress response. Humans are wired for survival. Whenever you feel threatened, the survival network in your brain and body mobilises its adaptive energy to increase your chances of survival. This adaptive energy, originally designed for short-term stress responses, becomes toxic if left turned on for too long or if faced with a prolonged stressor. When you find yourself overwhelmed with negative thoughts, memories or feelings, you can manually turn off your own stress responses and gradually override the survival brain, using all your senses - sight, touch, Continue reading
Stress is a natural bodily response to a perceived threat. There are three types of stress; beneficial, tolerable and toxic. A reasonable amount of acute stress (mild and brief) can be beneficial and promote greater cognitive and immune system functions. However, toxic stress (traumatic and prolonged) are the biggest risk factors for cardiovascular disease. Depending on the severity of your negative life experiences, it is possible to leave your stress response in the 'ON' position for too long. When the nervous system starts to have trouble turning off your stress hormones, cardiovascular disease, among others, may become inevitable. Elevated levels Continue reading
Gratitude practice has been found to be a protective factor against stress and anxiety. Studies have shown that gratitude reduces the cortisol levels (your stress hormone) and increases synaptic serotonin levels (your happiness hormone). Gratitude is energy for rejuvenation. Depending on the intensity of your adversity, there comes a time, when you are faced with a crucial question; 'how can I get myself back up and running?' This is where gratitude comes in. By gradually shifting your focus and starting to pay attention to little things in your environment that you can be thankful for, you start to re-build your Continue reading
The myth of perfectionism: perfectionism is a mirage and illusion of the mind that is neither required nor necessary in the equation of happiness and success. A relentless pursuit of perfection is proof of a battered mind that longs to escape past traumatic experiences caused by just being IMPERFECT human. To be human is to be perfectly imperfect without self-shaming, self-hating or self-rejecting. To fulfil our ultimate potentials in life, we must embrace our imperfection and celebrate little progresses along the way, while seeing inevitable setbacks and adversities as stepping stones to more incremental progresses. In this 60-second clip, I Continue reading
Motivation is a function of focus and courage. In other words, what you focus on most of the time determines your courage or your discouragement, your motivation or your demotivation. In difficult times, you can use the power of focus to increase your motivational energy by redirecting your attention to something positive, encouraging and uplifting, notwithstanding your ongoing negative life experiences . Interestingly, the key neurotransmitters for your motivation and happiness, dopamine and serotonin, can be up-regulated through your tenacity to focus your mind towards sources of inspiration and compassion in the midst of adversity. In this 60-second clip, I Continue reading
In this session, I answered our online participants' questions on PTSD, mental health relapses, ADHD, bereavement, complex Trauma, HPA axis in stress response and more... Continue reading
The gut is not just a vital organ for digestion, it is also your second brain, or even your first brain depending on the theory that you base your argument on. However, what is less controversial about the gut, thanks to decades of scientific evidence, is that it has its own nervous system that is different from the central and periphery nervous system. This means that your gut thinks, feels, talks and even generate its own complex movements (obviously). Over 80% of the communication between the cranial brain (head brain) and the gut brain is bottom-up (from the gut to Continue reading
One of the best gifts that you can give to your brain is persistent goal-setting and goal-oriented actions.The human brain is goal-driven. Without a compelling goal for the brain to gravitate towards, its versatility and genius gradually become redundant. Goals are to the brain what good food is to the body. The longevity of your brain neurones depends on their effective usage. In this 60 seconds clip, I share how you can strengthen your brain by becoming a passionate goal--setter and goal-achiever. Continue reading
You've probably heard many times that it is not really what happens to us in life that is the most critical regarding our emotional wellbeing, but how we respond to what happens to us. It is our response-ability, the story that we construct from what happens, that determines the eventuality of our mental wellness. Your autonomic nervous system speaks the language of emotions. The meaning that we derive from our ordeal, your conscious and subconscious interpretation, produces the emotions that instructs your nervous system to either mobilise your survival response (fight/flight) or your relaxation response (safety and social engagement). In Continue reading
Psychological trauma does not just devastate the human mind, it also distresses the entire nervous system. Using the somatic-psychological approach (bottom-up), we can get the healing process started by restoring safety and resiliency to the nervous system, even before you talk about your traumatic #memories in details. Here is how in 60 seconds. Continue reading
Your thoughts are electrochemical impulses that signal a cascade of hormonal responses that puts your entire being into a state of relaxation or anxiety, depending on the nature of our thoughts. If you think negatively, your brain produces negative chemicals that transform into negative feelings, and negative feelings eventually transmute into physical symptoms. But it doesn't end there. There are other important implications you need to be aware of in order to become an active participator in your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. In this 60 seconds video, I share how you can start to gradually elevate your body out Continue reading
Your significance lies in your uniqueness, and not in your commonalities with others. We all have something that sets us apart from others. This is your uniqueness that should be identified, developed and deployed to serve humanity. In this 60 seconds video, I share the 4 Cs of happiness, progress and significance. Continue reading
There is greatness in everyone of us. We're all walking miracles. You are a miracle waiting to happen to someone somewhere. Somebody needs the passion, insights, wisdom, expertise, gifts and talent that you carry. But the fact that we're all loaded with possibilities and potential does not mean that we will all self-actualise and achieve our greatest ideal. This is because your potentials are seeds that must be planted, watered, and nurtured before they can be harvested. Believing in your true self is central to the germination and prosperity of your seeds of greatness. Unfortunately, many people have disowned their Continue reading
One of the critical regions of our survival neuro-networks is known as the amygdala. The amygdala is the chief security officer of your psyche. It measures the tone and intensity of your emotions to prepare you for emergency by activating your fight-or-flight response. In these times of great uncertainties and stress, how can we re-nurture the amygdala so that it does not overdrive and start to micromanage our life through exaggerated bodily symptoms of anxiety? In this session, I share how to regulate your amygdala for calm and confidence. I also answered questions about how to transform the feelings of being Continue reading
The human brain is engineered for survival. When we face unbearable stressors in our environment, the survival part of the brain kicks in and other regions of the brain that are non-essential to your survival response go out of business, at least for the time being. For example, your thinking brain goes offline whenever your survival, hardwired brain comes online. In times like this where the coronavirus epidemic is terrorising the entire global community, we must understand how to re-nurture the survival centre to back off from micromanaging our life, forcing upon us a cascade of unpleasant somatic and emotional Continue reading
I was interviewed by the ‘Time to Glow Up’ podcast. In this interview, I share about how your brain reacts to the COVID-19 anxiety and steps to protecting the mental wellness of yourself, your children and your elderly relatives during this extremely challenging time. Continue reading
Protecting Your Mental Health Against the Effects of COVID 19|MindBody Breakthrough OCD often serves as a defence mechanism against overwhelming unresolved traumatic emotions, buried in the subconscious mind. In times of uncertainties and stress, obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety symptoms escalate. The fear that we feel in our minds instructs the anxiety circuits in the brain to up-regulate our sympathetic nervous system for hyper-arousal. This bio-chemical instruction increases our somatic symptoms of anxiety and OCD symptoms, and the Amygdala (fear and anxiety centre) starts to micro-manage our mind and body. Some people experience increased anxiety symptoms, such as palpitations, tingling of arms and Continue reading
MEDITATION to Ease COVID 19 OCD & Anxiety: The 'Two Witnesses' Technique|MindBody Breakthrough DOWNLOAD The Script for this Meditation HERE The purpose of this meditation is to help those with existing OCD and anxiety conditions to activate their parasympathetic response (the body healing and relaxation centre) to serve as a protective factor in this worrying time. This meditation is designed to help you rewire your brain for greater control over your OCD and anxiety long-term. In the meantime, it keeps your entire being in a healing and resilient state against the uncertainties and negative emotions generated by COVID-19. The COVID-19 Continue reading
COVID-19 & Our Live Workshops Updates|Live Stream|Recordings|MindBody Breakthrough COVID-19 updates on Our Live Events: All our workshops are still running as scheduled as we monitor the UK Government plans in the next few weeks. Our conference hosts are taking ultimate measures to ensure the safety and wellbeing of all our delegates. The Government stay-at-home guidance is that if you feel unwell for any reason whatsoever, self-isolate at home for 7 days. If this applies to you, just let us know and we will send you our live stream link. If you miss the live stream, get in touch and we'll Continue reading
The Power of Help Seeking|Co-Regulation|Relationships|Togetherness| MindBody Breakthrough Help-seeking is not a sign of weakness, but that of strength. We're social creatures that thrive when we utilise the energy and expertise of compassionate others during our darkest moments. Help-seeking is the realisation that humans are not designed to go through life challenges all alone. Help-seeking is proof of humility. It is the authorisation for activating one of the most powerful laws of nature - the law of relationship. Your brain reacts positively when willing others join forces with you to help you in your struggles, providing an atmosphere of safety, reassurance Continue reading
Overcoming the Fear that Binds Creativity|Progress|Fulfilment|MindBody Breakthrough Fear is a known enemy of creativity. When fear strikes, the creative brain freezes and goes offline. But creative pursuit has been an integral part of our paths to progress and fulfilment as humans. We are all designed to be creative connoisseurs at different endeavours of life. Some are good with numbers while others are good with people. Some are coders while others are readers. Some love to sing while others love to dance. Whatever you are blessed with, that genius within you will have to rely on your conscious resolution to master Continue reading
Grieving is a necessary emotion for healing and adaptation after losing someone or something that matters dearly to us. Your willingness to fully embrace your grief reaction as a natural protocol for healing will determine whether you adapt well or maladapt. Unfortunately, many people do not grieve well. They either move on too quickly in denial as a way of escaping retributions from today's society with zero tolerance for people who grieve too long or totally numb grief feelings and pass themselves off as though nothing has happened. Grieving is an honourable process that is situation-specific, as well as person-specific. Continue reading
It's now been accepted as self-evident fact that the number one key to all achievements in life is self-discipline. Your willingness to become your own 'disciple' and judiciously carry out your own daily growth plans and action-steps in a tenacious and relentless act of self-leadership is the hallmark of all human progress. Self-delusion is hoping that your desired future will somehow find its way to your inner room while snoozing up in bed in a non-chalant and dissociative state of perpetual slumber. Progress does not have to happen; but if you must walk into it, you will have to use Continue reading
Your life is your habits; nothing significant will unfold in your future that does not dominate your daily habits. Habit is anything you've repeated so often that your brain and being have no choice but to encode it as your new subconscious operating command. We're creatures of habits. When you choose your habits, you decide a destiny. Your future is nothing but an accumulation of your daily routines. We are all geniuses in some ways. But what separates top achievers from the rest is the quality of their daily routines. Habits are more powerful than genius and natural abilities. Without Continue reading
Self-doubt is a notorious dream-murderer. It kills passions and stifles destinies. But the most powerful factories for change still lie within you; your mind, your imagination and your applied faith. Your mind is the factory for ideas. Imagination is the eye of the mind that attracts and cultivates possibilities. “Faith is taking the first step even though you can’t see the entire staircase,” as rightly observed by Martin Luther King Junior. In this short clip, I share how you can rise above self-doubt and move on to unleash your maximum potential. Continue reading
Your ability to make yourself do what you have to do, at the right time that you have to do it, and whether you feel like doing it or not is a powerful life-force for all accomplishments. Taking right-actions in spite of the resistance of the force of inertia is a virtue for progress and greater life contributions. If you won’t step out, you can't step into your breakthroughs. The difference between greater contribution and mediocrity is the tenacity to launch and persist without any guarantee of success. This is the difference in people. In this short clip, I share Continue reading
Self-criticism often comes from the subconscious belief that our authentic selves are defective, flawed and not worthy of unconditional self-compassion. This is often a product of past negative experiences that have made us to split from our sense of self and identified with the aggressors - the inner critics. In this short clip, I share how you can move from self-criticism into unconditional self-acceptance, believing and caring for your self, in spite of your past. This is a needed virtue for happiness, progress and greater self-fulfilment in life. Continue reading
The core purpose of passion is to expand wellness and happiness to humanity. Your passion is anything that you intensely enjoy that has the ability to spread happiness and wellbeing to others. Many of us have passions but few managed to actualise them. In this clip, I share a few steps on how to identify your greatest passion and how to ensure that your passion counts towards greater life fulfilment, increased contribution and happiness. Continue reading
Self-confidence is key to happiness and success. Without a reasonable amount confidence in self and own sense of personal efficacy, no success or happiness is possible. In this clip, I share how to shake off past shame-based hardwired emotions and re-launch your self-confidence for personal achievement and greater contribution. Continue reading
Resilience is a bridge to fulfilment in life. Against the relentless nature of life adversities, we must pass the test of resilience in order to progress. Resilience is never a personality trait that is given to a selective few, but a virtue that can be developed and acquired. In this clip, I share a few thoughts on how to strengthen your resilience to move through the adversities you are currently going through and eventually achieve your ultimate potential in life. Continue reading
Fear is a debilitating energy. One of the acronyms of the word 'fear' is thought to be 'False Evidence Appearing Real'. But for millions of people around the world, fear is actually real and more than something that is just in their 'head'. For many, their fear represents ingrained unresolved emotions of trauma that they suffered in childhood. In this brief video, I offer a simple technique to break the shackles of trauma and shame-based fear that seeks to freeze our future and binds us to the negative emotions of the past. Continue reading
Chronic stress is an inevitable consequence for many of us today. Our past unprocessed traumatic griefs and repressed emotions are combining with our current day-to-day stressors to trigger us off into recurring negative emotional and physiological flashbacks. How do you deal with a non-conscious traumatic flashback that seems to take over you and flip you into a negative frenzy state on a daily basis? In this short video, I share three steps to initiate a renegotiating process. Continue reading
Tenacity is a trait that must be acquired if we must pull through life's toughest challenges and achieve our full potential. Adversity is inevitable but tenacity has to be cultivated and developed. The quality of your emotional resilience and brain resilience will determine your emotional wellbeing and physiological health. in this short video, I discuss how to improve your tenacity in difficult times. Tenacity does not always guarantee relief or success; but without it, no success is possible. Continue reading
An over-active brain is always an anxious one. The brain is involved in everything that we do including our emotional regulation, behavioural modulation and thought processes. If the brain becomes overly anxious as a result of chronic stress exposure or trauma, we can become overwhelmed with anxious feelings that generate painful physiological responses such as panic attacks, headache, nausea, tingling, palpitations, OCD, bodily pains and other psychosomatic symptoms. In this this short video, I share some easy steps towards calming down an anxious brain. Continue reading
Life is a series of ups and downs, joys and sorrows. But it is how we handle our downs and sorrows that often determines the quality of our mental and emotional health. In this short clip, I explain how to use a grieving process as a platform for healing. What are the common misconceptions of grieving? How can you grieve-forward? Continue reading
Excessive worrying is a condition that has been associated with several maladaptive and psychopathological conditions. When over-worrying becomes a habit, the body learns to live in a survival mode which eventually puts the mind and body in a state of exhaustion. High cortisol levels produced in this process can break down the immune system and the autonomic nervous system, causing further complications regarding our emotions and physical state of being. Learning to transform overworking is a skill that can be cultivated, one step at a time. In this short video, I discuss how you can get started in this Continue reading
Intrusive thoughts can get stuck in the mind. If they do, what steps can you take to shift them. In this short video, I recommend a fews steps towards transformation. Continue reading
Merry Christmas! Life is a study of focus. Our ability to know what to focus us is a critical ingredient in our success and fulfilment recipe. We cannot do everything that requires our attention. But the few things that we give our attention to in the New Year will shape our success or failure. This one thing that I share would probably define your progress and happiness next year than any other single mind exercise ever invented. Continue reading
Fear is one of the biggest enemies of success. It hinders us from pressing ahead to achieve our personal potential. But if we are to achieve our goals and experience greater life satisfaction, we will need to transform fear. There are some principles to outsmart our fears. There are steps to take that will empower our to feel the fear but do it anyway. In this video, I share a few steps towards transforming your fears and getting ahead… Continue reading
One of the most powerful insights into the human mind and wellness is the understanding that humans can be addicted to their emotions of worry and anxiety. Once this happens, it becomes difficult to shift a worrying habit. In this video, I share two important steps to breaking the emotional continuity of worry and creating a mind of calm and tranquility… Continue reading
Stress has become a huge source disability in our societies today. Stress suffocates hopes, ruins relationships and destroys human aspirations. But for us to achieve happiness and fulfilment in life, we must understand how to shift a stressful state any time it crawls into our mental arena. In this short video, I share a few steps to transforming stress, starting from today.. Continue reading
Emotions are chemical signatures of all of our pattern of thoughts and past experiences. Human mental wellness is often at the mercy of his bio-chemical reactions. We cannot be healthy beyond the healthiness of the chemical mix within our body system. What you are thinking about all the time is deciding the chemicals that a component within your emotional brain is mixing. If you worry a lot, you are manufacturing stress chemicals in abundance into your system, which can then compromise the functions of some vital organs within you. What can you then do to make your body mix energising Continue reading
The Amygdala is part of our emotional brain that is in charge our alerting the body of internal or external threats. It is part of our survival mechanism that requested your fight or fight response to get started. Once the Amygdala has memorised your fears, negative thoughts and repressed emotions, it starts to press the alert buttons even when your conscious mind is unaware of any external or internal danger. For transformation to take place, you will need to break the negative routines of the amygdala, and updates its memories and emergency file. In this short clip, I share what Continue reading
Depression has become a major cause of disability in several developed nations around the world. Once depression extends its roots into the molecules of our emotions and the homeostatic balance of the body re-calibrates, it becomes very difficult to transform the episode. In this short clip, I share 2 things you can start to do immediately to rewire the brain towards transformation. Continue reading
Key Focuses for the Anxiety Q & A session: I will be answering specific questions on many topics, such as: —Key steps to transforming stress and anxiety. —Understanding the neuro-physiology of anxiety. —Managing anxiety symptoms. —Overcoming self-doubt and the “what if” thinking that often breed anxiety. —How to beat the torture of procrastination: a common coping mechanism for stress. —Antidepressants or will power? —And many more… Continue reading
Patience is a virtue that we all need if we must achieve our goals and express our full personal potential. While there are some things we do not have to be patient for in life, most of the things that make life a fulfilling experience demand that we pass the test of patience. Exceptional life is always at the other side of patience. In this short video, I share how you can super-charge your patience battery and then use it to drive yourself unto your ultimate fulfilment in life. Continue reading
Fear is the number one enemy of mental wellness and success. Whatever you desire to be, do or have is always at the other side of where fear resides. In other words, you will have to face the fear and press through it in order to reach your desired goals, be it in the area of relationship, health, wealth or career. The mastery of fear is simply a mastery of life. In this short live clip, I share four steps to conquering fear and making your life count on every side. Continue reading
Environment matters to your fulfillment. If you realise that your environment is incompatible with your future, what do you do? How do you break free from a toxic environment that seems to be sapping your energy and blurring your vision? What steps can you take to limit the negative influences of your environment on your future aspirations? In this short clip, I share from my personal experience and what you can do to create your desired future in spite of the negative energy of your immediate environment. Continue reading
Worry is one of the biggest enemies of mental and physical wellness. If can’t control worry, you will struggle to fulfill your full potential in life. Obsessive worrying can mess up the nervous system, weaken the immune system and keep us less effective in enjoying life and becoming who and what we desire to be. In this clip, I share a few thoughts on how to break the worry habit so that you can have more peace of mind as you journey towards personal fulfillment. Continue reading
Coaching is your short-cut to great accomplishment. In this clip, I share some insights into how you can use coaching to speed up your results…. Continue reading
Smiling has been known for centuries for its positive effects on our mind and nervous system. Do you know that smiling does a better job than chocolate in stimulating the brain’s reward mechanism that makes us feel good and happy? Look at children. They are happier and have more energy because they laugh a lot more in a 24 hour period than the average adult can ever manage. One study showed that, on average, children laugh 400 times a day, while the happiest adults only manage to smile 40-50 times a day. On average, most of us only smile or Continue reading
Laziness is a mind problem that can kill your dreams and suffocate your happiness in life. Most people slump into a lazy habit of thinking and doing without knowing why and how to get out of it. This article will not only reveal why, it will also show you how to shake it off for good. Below are the eight steps that have helped others rise above mental inhibitions and unlock their mental energy for greater accomplishment: These eight steps are acronyms of the word L.A.Z.I.N.E.S.S: 1. L: Let go of suppressed negative emotions. Your nervous system cannot stand repressed Continue reading
Laziness affects us all. It limits our ability to produce to the maximum and experience greater happiness and success. “I just don’t feel motivated to do anything. I know I should be pushing hard and doing something worthwhile but nothing seems to interest me enough to get me going. I feel like I am too lazy and basically wasting away. I used to be passionate about a few things. But now, most things don’t interesting me at all. I get tired easily. I am unhappy and frustrated. As a result, I comfort eat, over-sleep, or do pointless things just to Continue reading
Visualisation has creative energy that few other intellectual human factors can match. If you know how to use anticipatory visualisation technique to your advantage, you can dislodge anxiety in the brain. Your negative thoughts, feelings, imaginations and your avoidance mechanism conspired together over time to programme your emotional mind for anxiety. To overcome anxiety, you will need the same elements; thoughts, feelings, imaginations and avoidance mechanism, all engaged positively using anticipatory visualisation. You need to keep all these four elements positive for a certain amount of time until their positive energies eventually dismantle the old anxiety programming. Once this happens, Continue reading
You can transform anxiety. This is possible if you have access to the right intervention and are willing to put in the necessary work. Your personal responsibility is essential. It is not enough to have a desire for change. You will need to set change in motion through your corresponding actions. [headline style=”1″ align=”left” headline_tag=”h2″] You Can Understand Anxiety By Looking At A Tattoo [/headline] The best analogy for describing anxiety in relation to the brain is by using a tattoo as an example. A tattoo, once inscribed into the skin, becomes difficult to un-inscribe. It is possible, but you Continue reading
The following benefits have been gathered from both the sufferers and professionals who have used the FEAR model either as a self-help tool or as a model for helping clients: 1. Health and fitness. The FEAR Model helps restore the body to function as intended. Emotional stress and anxiety messes up the nervous system, increases emotional fatigue and degenerates the body quickly. By using the FEAR model steps regularly, you’ll achieve heightened emotional well-being , a higher level of energy, creativity, and greater life satisfaction. A sufferer who recently went through the course wrote the following feedback, “Very good, informative, eye Continue reading
Anxiety disorder can be painfully stubborn to overcome. I know this because I’ve been through it myself. Anxiety can easily be ingrained in the brain like a tattoo, making it incredibly difficult to undo. Of course, you can dislodge the old wiring of anxiety in the brain and re-programme your brain for calm and confidence, if you know the right steps to take. Having taught on this subject around the country, the F.E.A.R. Model recovery steps for transforming anxiety disorder may be what you need to transform yourself once and for all or any of your loved ones suffering from anxiety. Simple but very effective. Many sufferers are now experiencing a new life of Continue reading
Adrenal fatigue has become a common disorder among many people suffering from anxiety and chronic stress. Adrenal fatigue, also known as adrenal exhaustion, is caused when the body’s adaptive energy that protects us from being overwhelmed by stress cannot longer do so. We get extra energy to combat stress from our adrenal glands. But if we are exposed to a source of stress that is prolonged and continuous, it becomes highly likely that the adrenal glands will eventually grow tired to perform their functions properly. Prolonged exposure to stress, sooner or later, forces the adrenal glands to reach a state Continue reading
Treating GAD and Panic Disorder Workshop in Rotherham over the weekend was a success. We had great feedback from many of the attendees. The workshop centered around the role of repressed negative emotions in the creation of most anxiety-related disorders. One of the questions that came up in relation to this is the following; “Instead of the States asking everyone to queue for a CBT programme and prescribing more and more antidepressants to anxiety and depression sufferers, why are they not encouraging alternative treatments that actually deal with the root-causes of anxiety-related disorders?” Well, it is a question that I Continue reading
Treating Intrusive Thoughts and the Inner Critical Voice workshop at Leeds Trinity University is around the corner (5th March 2016). This is a heavily anticipated one-day workshop. The ticket sold out in less than a week. Counsellors, therapists, health professionals and other individuals with great interest in mental health will be in attendance. One of the prevalent questions that is likely to dominate the delegates’ minds especially among the mental health experts is this; “Why is it difficult to cure intrusive thoughts permanently using ordinary counselling methods?” For many years I personally pondered upon this same question. I had helped Continue reading
Stress can be extremely debilitating. But it can even get worse if your way of thinking is generating more stress for you than external circumstances. The following are the three steps for ensuring that your mindset is not breathing life to your stress: Identify any negative beliefs which could be breathing life to your stress. This includes debilitating statements such as, “I am always stressed at Christmas, or I’m always stressed out in our weekly business meeting.” There are more similar negative statements many people say casually without really reading too much into them. However, the brain and the subconscious Continue reading
In my first article in this series, How to Identify and Eliminate Anxiety Disorders, I highlighted some of the reasons why anxiety disorders are complex. I also explored some of the common symptoms of anxiety disorders. In this article, I will show you how you can assess yourself regarding anxiety disorders. If you’re not already sure, the following details will assist you in ascertaining your exact condition and offer what your next action-step should be. The best place to begin a recovery journey is on the platform of recognition. In other words, you will need to know what is Continue reading
Anxiety disorders are more common today than any other era in history. Anxiety-related disorders such as Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorders (OCD), panic disorder, depression, Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) are all at a record high. Studies have shown that anxiety-related disorders affect up to fifteen percent of the population at any one time. This is a huge amount of people if you think about it. One of the reasons for the increase is because anxiety disorders are complex. Their diagnosis, prevention and treatment can be very challenging to Continue reading
In this article, I will show you a 60-second mindfulness technique for anxiety and stress relief. These simple steps I am about to show you can be life-changing, provided you put them into practice as often a possible. But before I delve into it, let me quickly demystify some myths around the whole subject of mindfulness that may stop you from reaping its rewards. What Mindfulness Is Not Of course, many people are skeptical and nervous when they hear the words, “meditation” and “mindfulness.” I too was when I first heard about them. But after a lot of digging, I Continue reading
We all experience a measure of anxiety in some social or performance-driven situations. It’s a duty of the nervous system to be a bit nervous and self-protect in a situation where it thinks it could be vulnerable to public criticism or embarrassment. However, if your fear is a lot stronger than the so called “normal anxiety” that most people experience in social situations, then there may be more to it than you think. Here are some questions that can help you scrutinise your actions and behaviour as to whether you have social anxiety: Behavioural Signs of Social Anxiety: Is your Continue reading
The human brain is complex. The brain is made up of over one hundred billion neurones or brain cells; all of which have to constantly interact and send messages to each other. It is these billions of interactions between the brain cells that shape our emotions, behaviours, thoughts and even our mental health. Regarding anxiety-related symptoms, the communications between the brain-cells are very crucial. If things are not right with the way the neurones send and receive messages among each other, anxiety and other psychological conditions can be the resulting factors. Now, for communication to take place between the brain Continue reading
Question: How can a person tell whether they are depressed or just lazy, unmotivated or lacking in willpower? My Commentary: Extreme lack of motivation, inability to focus on priority tasks, sudden burst of enthusiasm, social ineptitude and loneliness could be symptoms of a mild type of bipolar disorder known as hypomania. This often comes with mild mood swings as well as mind depressive episodes: If it is hypomania, you may experience contrasting swings in mood, ranging from periods of overactive and excited behaviour known as ‘mania’ or ‘manic episodes’ to depressive episodes. You may have stable times between these highs and Continue reading
Question: “I just feel anxious for no reason. I feel like there is something I am forgetting to do but I’m not.” There are two types of anxiety that you may be experiencing when it seems like you are feeling anxious for no reason. Each of these two anxieties requires a different treatment approach: Spontaneous anxiety. This is when your anxiety comes out of the blue with high intensity, increases rapidly, and then eases off gradually. Anticipatory anxiety. This is often triggered by a threatening situation or a persistent negative thought or worry. This could also happen subconsciously, meaning that you may Continue reading
Do you secretly like hearing about the misfortunes of other people? Do you take comfort in the failures of others around you? It may be that you feel a bit guilty about hoping your friend’s boyfriend dump her or your neighbour’s new car breaks down, but you can’t just help yourself thinking this way. We all have negative thoughts sometimes especially towards the people around us whose progress or success might highlight our lack of progress… But what are the underlying reasons for thinking this way? How can we use this way of thinking to educate our consciousness and catapult to Continue reading
Are you often anxious of being in crowded places such as restaurants, supermarkets, or big shopping centres? Do you dread being in enclosed places or confined places such as bridges or tunnels? Maybe you struggle with being stuck at home all alone? Well, agoraphobia could be the one to blame here; fear of open spaces. However, the underlying subconscious dread of agoraphobia is the fear of being stranded in a situation where escape might be difficult or where losing control might create an avalanche of shame and embarrassment. Agoraphobia is often a protective outlet for panic attacks. This Continue reading
How Can You Protect Your Mind From the Escalating Anxiety…? When I understood this “Two-Mind-In-One” concept, I began to regain control from my escalating anxiety, and I’ve never looked back. I eventually became completely free from it and now helping people around the world overcome theirs. Let me share with you very quickly how your understanding about the “Two-Mind-In-One” concept can help you overcome any anxiety-related condition you may have : The human mind is divided into two minds: The conscious mind, and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is like the programmer that is typing in information into you, Continue reading
Do you often forfeit your plans to accommodate just about anyone who needs your assistance? Would you rather sacrifice your own needs for the sakes of other people who want your time? Do you find it a lot easier to advise others than it is to analyse and probe your own life? Of course, it is always good to be kind, self-less and helpful as long as your motivation for doing it comes from a healthy mindset. There are people who are passionate at going the extra-mile for other people because it is their ultimate purpose for living. It gives Continue reading
Do you often forfeit your plans so as to accommodate just about anyone who needs your assistance? There may be more to your acts of kindness. Here are possible reasons and solutions… [video_player type=”youtube” youtube_force_hd=”hd1080″ width=”640″ height=”360″ align=”center” margin_top=”0″ margin_bottom=”20″ border_size=”10″ border_color=”#063c55″]aHR0cHM6Ly95b3V0dS5iZS9UNGJMQWtGU3ZYWQ==[/video_player] Continue reading
Two of the biggest challenges I often face when assisting with anxiety recovery are the following: •Embryonic anxieties •Intrusive thoughts. Embryonic anxiety: Embryonic anxiety is the phrase I use to describe the fresh anxieties that are being generated as a result of what life is currently throwing at you. Imagine, you are trying to rise above your lingering anxiety disorder, but due to your current life challenges, you realise that your anxiety symptoms are getting worse. Embryonic anxieties could be responsible. Work, health, family or money related stresses are the main causes of embryonic anxiety. Just like an embryo, each stressful situation that you face Continue reading
As an anxiety recovery coach, this is one of my frequently asked questions. People want to know if the symptoms of anxiety they are experiencing put them in the anxiety disorder category or in the “ordinary” anxiety category. If you are wondering what the difference between anxiety and anxiety disorder is, here are my thoughts about the subject matter: The term “anxiety” in this context is often used to refer to the “ normal level” of anxiety that every human experience on exposure of anxiety-inducing situations. In other words, it is the natural anxious feeling that we all face when Continue reading
When I was suffering from anxiety, I experienced these two personality effects of anxiety that somehow affected what I thought about myself, how I viewed the world around me and of course how I react to life in general… But after I understood these two personality elements, things began to change… Self-awareness was all that it took… Watch me explain these two obstacles to recovery here (3.59 minute video): [video_player type=”youtube” youtube_force_hd=”hd1080″ width=”560″ height=”315″ align=”center” margin_top=”0″ margin_bottom=”20″ border_size=”10″]aHR0cHM6Ly95b3V0dS5iZS8zUVdwUjZYRmNyOA==[/video_player] Continue reading
As an anxiety recovery coach, this is one of my frequently asked questions. People want to know if the symptoms of anxiety they are experiencing put them in the anxiety disorder category or in the “ordinary” anxiety category. If you are wondering what the difference between anxiety and anxiety disorder is, here are my thoughts about the subject matter: [video_player type=”youtube” youtube_hide_controls=”Y” youtube_force_hd=”hd1080″ width=”560″ height=”315″ align=”center” margin_top=”0″ margin_bottom=”20″ border_size=”10″ border_color=”#081f2b”]aHR0cHM6Ly95b3V0dS5iZS95Y292NFFxOVhvZw==[/video_player] Continue reading
Years ago when I used to suffer from anxiety, someone told me about the three daily habits that could drastically keep my anxiety at bay and send me on the way to full recovery. Honestly speaking, I doubted their effects until I actually gave them a try. To my surprise, they became a game changer and kick-started my transformation! I share these 3 simple things in the short video below. [video_player type=”youtube” youtube_hide_controls=”Y” youtube_force_hd=”hd1080″ width=”560″ height=”315″ align=”center” margin_top=”0″ margin_bottom=”20″ border_size=”10″ border_color=”#052533″]aHR0cHM6Ly95b3V0dS5iZS9JRkUta25rOWxCYw==[/video_player] Continue reading
If your irrational fear disturbs you frequently and is often distressing and overpowering, then what you are dealing with is a potent outlet of anxiety disorders, and not just any kind of phobia. It may be that you are afraid of contracting a certain disease or illness. Perhaps you are worrying obsessively or may be fearful about your loved one’s well-being and safety. Maybe, for you, it’s the fear of death or the disruptive fear of “Something really bad is going to happen,” It may be that of totally losing control of your mind and embarrassing yourself in a public Continue reading
If I told you that your current anxiety-related condition is actually helping you, would you believe me? Probability not! But that’s exactly the case. As far as your anxiety disorder is concerned, it’s doing its ultimate best to protect you from something within the psyche which it considers a “bigger threat” against your emotions… Whether it is panic attack, GAD, OCD, agoraphobia, depression, intrusive thoughts, inner critical voice, body dysmorphic disorder, or any other anxiety-related issues – they are all outlets or defenses that your emotional brain has deployed to protect you from what it thinks are potentially brutal and Continue reading
If your desire is to be emotional healthy, happy and fulfilled, you will need to face your fears – looking at it right in the face courageously and choose to get on with your life in spite of it. I’ve got a few effective tips for you here to help you do just that. Fear is known to be one of the deadly menaces underneath every emotional disorders. Also, it is the number one enemy of self-expression and success. It paralyses self-confidence, beclouds our hope for the future and shatters our ability to enjoy life to the full and maximise Continue reading
Do you know that there are two things that can be the difference between stress and celebration for you this Christmas? Here there are: * What you choose to focus on. * The meaning you give to things. What you choose to focus on: One of the greatest qualities of humanity is our ability to decide our focus. We can choose to focus on our blessings or we can decide to focus on those things that are not going right in our lives… But whatever focus we choose, there are consequences – negative or positive. Positive focus creates positive feelings, Continue reading
Try these 5 proven and easy steps to gain control if you are experiencing Christmas Anxiety. It’s the time of year again when many people’s anxiety seems to escalate, and instead of enjoying the festive season, they are enduring it. By the way, this is a special request from a few of my clients and I thought you might find it useful too. [video_player type=”youtube” youtube_auto_play=”Y” youtube_force_hd=”hd720″ width=”560″ height=”315″ align=”center” margin_top=”0″ margin_bottom=”20″ border_size=”5″ border_color=”#690c0c”]aHR0cDovL3lvdXR1LmJlL055LUlCeF90UUpj[/video_player] These 5 steps have been tested and found very effective and simple to implement – and in no time, you can join others who are now Continue reading
If you have an anxiety disorder or have previously experienced anxiety first hand, I reckon you can easily express how it makes you free in words based on your own personal experience. For that reason, I’ll just look into the peculiarity of anxiety and how it’s different from other conditions such as fear. Anxiety is a psychological debilitating reaction that affects one’s entire being. It can cripple your ability to function well as a human being and deal with day-today situations. Unlike fear that is often directed to something external, e.g fear of spider or exams, anxiety is often internal, Continue reading
In life it is almost natural for us to focus on everything that is not going right with us – and overlook those few things that are worth being grateful for. Many of us do this by default – without even knowing how negatively biased our focus has been, regarding our lives. And this is the biggest decider of our mood, hopes and life experiences: How we feel about ourselves, about the past, about the present, about the future and even about our entire life. What is most fascinating is the fact that gratitude carries extraordinary positive energy that is Continue reading
They always recognise that “thoughts” are causes and emotions are “effects”. Emotionally intelligent people understand that we live in a world strictly governed by the law of cause and effect, which says that “To every effect, there is a cause.” Therefore, they are fully aware that the thought that they permit to dominate their mind determines the emotions that they produce within them. So, they constantly take control of their thought patterns in order to ensure that the feelings and the emotions they produce are consistent with their goals and ideals. As such, they habitually screen out negative thinking and Continue reading
Regarding anxiety disorders, this is one the powerful recovery tools many people don’t seem to know about. And even if they’ve heard of it, they tend not to do anything with it, probably because they haven’t really experienced its transformational power. [video_lightbox type=”url” style=”2″ url1=”” url2=”” width=”511″ height=”288″ placeholder=”http://mindbodyrecovery.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Screen-Shot-2014-10-13-at-09.34.58-300×187.png” placeholder_width=”300″ placeholder_height=”187″ align=”center”]aHR0cDovL3ZpZGVvY2xpcHNtb3RpdmF0aW9uYWwuczMuYW1hem9uYXdzLmNvbS9Ib3cgdG8gb3ZlcmNvbWUgc2VsZi1kb3VidC9FYXNpbHkgSWdub3JlZCBBbnhpZXR5IFJlY292ZXJ5IFRlY2huaXF1ZS5tcDQ=[/video_lightbox] Here is a piece of timeless life-modification technique which thousands of people have used and are still using to change what they do not want in their life and get the kind of results they want to see, especially in the areas of well-being, attitudes and personal fulfilment. Continue reading
Do you know that there are simple steps you can take to instantly reduce the symptoms of your anxiety? I will quickly share them with you here. But before I do that, there is one important thing I want to draw your attention to that will help you make sense of why the below self-analysis works. And this is it: Your thought (that is your thinking pattern) is the most powerful element regarding whether or not you will defeat your anxiety, agoraphobia, panic, OCD or any other anxiety outlet you may currently have. Why is this so? It is so Continue reading
Regardless of how courageous and self-reliant we look or feel, we all need each other: listening ears, empathy and encouragement are vital to our greatness and fulfilment. Kindness, empathy, encouragement, forgiveness, motivation, belief are all important qualities that others need from us for their emotional well-being and success… Continue reading
Do you often wake up in the morning with horrible feelings and symptoms of morning anxiety, such as dizziness, trembling, panic attacks, feeling sweaty, fatigue, intense stomach aches, rapid heart beat and loads of anxious thoughts, just to mention a few? The following top ten causes of morning anxiety might be useful to you. Sometimes that’s all it takes to kick-start your recovery – intensified awareness of the cause(s) of your morning anxiety. [headline style=”1″ align=”left”] 10. Not Getting Enough Sleep.[/headline] You will be surprised to discover how many people develop morning anxiety due to poor sleeping pattern. If Continue reading
Whether you like it or not, there will be seasons in your life when you’ll have to battle your way through feelings of discouragement. As along as we are alive, we’ll never outgrow intermittent feelings of discouragement, regardless of the level of our emotional intelligence, motivation or success. So, when you find yourself on the verge of being swept away by the unforeseen currents of discouragement, use the tips below to steady your ship, so that you can navigate your way back in the direction of happiness, progress and personal fulfilment: 1. Accept it. The first key to recovery from Continue reading
The desire to feel important in humans is extremely compelling and as crucial as water is to the body. Every one wants to feel that they matter, and that their contributions are valuable and appreciated. The hunger to feel wanted and valuable is arguably the strongest psychological hunger known to man. There is no self-motivational catalyst like being told that you really matter and that your service, as well as your presence, is extremely needed and necessary. Being made to feel valuable is very important because it is directly connected to our happiness, performance, self-image and levels of creativity. Continue reading
If you are like many people who often feel easily discouraged about many things they once seem to get excited about, try the following tips to defeat this notorious deadly enemy of happiness and success called DISCOURAGEMENT: 1. Take the fear out of failing. The biggest reason why many feel discouraged easily is the fear of failure. You will probably disagree with this, because often times, this fear happens in the subconscious mind. So it’s not something you think about consciously which then starts making you to feel discouraged… Here are few things you should bear in mind: Continue reading
[feature_box style=”11″ only_advanced=”There are no title options for the choosen style” content_font_size=”20″ content_font_font=”Bitter” content_font_color=”#eeeee” alignment=”center”] “The wise select their THINKING to create the feelings they desire, while others surrender to their FEELINGS to create the thinking they detest.” — Wale Oladipo [/feature_box] The greatest key to personal well-being is the ability to take charge of one’s thinking. It is a vital skill concerning emotional intelligence. The thinking that you permit determines the feelings that you generate. Feelings are faithful employees of thoughts. Your thoughts dictate what kind of feeling you should expect. It is like a car and the Continue reading
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“Great things are always products of small steps that won’t just quit progressing, even when the road seems blurred.” — Wale Oladipo Do you often get so excited about pursuing a goal, a project or a dream but get easily discouraged because the results you expect do not come quickly enough or the negative opinions of others basically sap your energy and enthusiasm? Do you feel you lack the tenacity to follow through? This article might be useful to you. To start with, let me assure you that you are not the only one in this situation. Over Continue reading
What is your take on drinking and morning anxiety? Do you think one fuels the other, or do you feel they are not connected at all? Alcohol effects on morning anxiety are increasingly being pointed out by many people suffering from morning anxiety. That’s why I thought my following answers to two of the recent questions on alcohol and morning anxiety asked by one of my subscribers may be useful to you. [headline style=”1″ align=”center”]Concerning your first question: “I have stopped drinking alcohol as I found this in the morning was a major trigger for morning anxiety. Why is this Continue reading
What is your experience with morning anxiety? Do you feel you’re absolutely not a morning person? Do you find it hard getting out of bed, never mind planing or getting the day started? In the mornings, do you wake up feeling uncontrollably helpless, panicky, totally de-motivated, empty, with a depressing sense of being isolated from the rest of the world? Or maybe you even dread going to bed at night in fear of how you’d wake up in the morning? Morning anxiety is real and its effects on people is horrible. So if you have morning anxiety and you feel Continue reading
Helping clients suffering from various anxiety disorders in my therapy clinic in Bradford and through my online anxiety recovery programmes, for many years now, has continued to confirm one of my strongest persuasions that the major cause of anxiety-related disorders lies in the accumulations of human’s negative emotions. My therapy approach has always centered around helping clients to release their negative emotions, (past, present and future) and the results have always been tremendously great. I can’t still believe why many psychologists and therapists of our days are still ignoring or minoring on this powerful discovery in their therapy sessions with Continue reading
Try the following tips to overcome any kind of loneliness caused by Real-Self Alienation (to understand real-self alienation, read my article on overcoming loneliness): See your loneliness as an internal challenge, as opposed to external. Accept that the cause of your loneliness is beyond the fact that others do not care about connecting with you. Rather look at it as a battle confined to the walls of your mind. If you can win the battle of loneliness in your mind, you will definitely with the loneliness battle in your real world – what happens on the outside of you will Continue reading
Do you sometimes find yourself overwhelmed with the feelings of sudden discouragement and depression? For you, does it feel like your joy, enthusiasm and hope just vanish in a flash, and you are left with the unpleasant feelings moodiness, dejection and emptiness? This article may be helpful to you. Study shows that the more loving, ambitious, creative and productive a person is or is capable of becoming, the more likely he’ll suffer from a mild state of sudden discouragement and depression. But Does that Mean You Are Chronically Depressed? If you can relate with the above descriptions, that does not Continue reading
Taking time to grieve effectively when we experience a loss can help us avoid developing aggravated anxiety-related conditions. Repressed negative emotions are the major causes of anxiety disorders. And there is hardly a faster way to accumulate such unpleasant emotions like when we experience a loss of a loved one or of something very important to us. Whether it is a death of a closed friend, a family member, or that of a favorite pet, or a death of relationship (divorce/separation), or that of a cherished job, or even a death of a major dream in your life, it is Continue reading
If you have not suffered from anxiety disorders before, you’ll probably find the topic of this article a bit strange, because Christmas, to you, is a time to be happy and celebrate. That is absolutely true. But I’m afraid not everybody feels this way. Many people find the month of December, as a whole, very stressful and depressing for various reasons, some of which I will briefly look at in this article, and then share five tips to help you avoid being depressed at Christmas. “…Being depressed at Christmas…” Doesn’t that slightly sound paradoxical – as we know Christmas represents Continue reading
Guard your mind from unrealistic seasonal influences. Refuse to be sold alive by the media. What you watch on TV or hear over the radio about how an “ideal” Christmas should look like can literally send you into a deep valley of discontent, resentment, unhappiness and self-pity. Remember that nearly all TV adverts seek to force you into a state of discontentment and frustration concerning your present circumstances. They tend to suggest that you can only have a “perfect” Christmas if you buy what they are selling. So be careful, your TV adverts, and other programs are not based on Continue reading
We are all creatures of relationship. And as such, we pick up different kinds of feelings as we interact with others. Some are bad feelings while others are good. But what happens when we develop a bad feeling concerning someone or something? How do we handle the left-behind uneasiness and the agitation? How do we minimize the pain and maximize our pleasure of being connected to others? Below are seven easy steps to assist you in regaining your peace and calm. Identify what exactly the problem is. Sometimes, the main cause of your anxiety or low mood might not be Continue reading
It is natural to have a sense of concern for the well-being of our loved ones. What we read or see on TV, newspapers, magazines, or via our portable digital devices accentuate the fact that we live in increasingly violent and dangerous societies. As such, thinking about the possibilities of our family members or closed friends being on the receiving end of some of the horrific incidents we have been exposed to in the media can be totally inconceivable and unbearable. Surely, healthy concerns for the wellness of our loved ones are good. But it becomes unhealthy when the thought Continue reading