Childhood insecure attachment has been known for decades to negatively affect children outcomes in life. Humans are creatures of relationships. Our brain depends on the nurturing, compassionate and safe environment to complete its full development. If a child misses out on a secure-base and emotionally attuned relationship with the primary care-giver, substitute attachment relationships may be sought subconsciously later in life (such as addictions) as a way of self-regulating. Early interactions between infants and primary carers stimulate the development of our reward, stress and emotional regulatory systems. If these systems fail to fully develop in childhood, we become increasingly dependent Continue reading
Depression is a brain-driven, biochemical condition that affects key neurotransmitters involved in motivation, pleasure, mood and cognition. If you suffer from depression, your brain is heavily involved in your depressive symptoms. This means that you cannot blame yourself for your inability to feel pleasure, think straight or self-motivate. Feelings of guilt, shame, hopelessness, uselessness, self-criticism, self-condemnation and self-mutilation are typical in major depressive episodes, but this must be put in context that can stimulate recovery and not truncate it. In this short video, I share a few things you must know to initiate your recovery journey. Continue reading
Anxiety is a physiological state of survival that can be extremely debilitating. In dealing with anxiety, however, the key insights that can initiate better management and coping skills might be simpler than you think. It turns out that it begins with right understanding. In this short clip, I share 3 things you should be aware of in order to deal with anxiety more effectively. Continue reading
Anxiety is actually your friend, your ancient survival friend, and not your enemy. While life's negative experiences may readapt the anxiety centre to work harder than normal and get mistaken for a foe, it does not have to stay like that and permanently become the boss of the psyche. In this short video, I share how you can initiate a healthy reconditioning process for your ancient friend - anxiety. Continue reading
Here, I answer one of the commonly asked questions on anxiety; 'Do I have anxiety?' Anxiety is a natural survival energy, but if mobilised too much it can wreak havoc within our emotional, physical and mental states. Continue reading
Humans are creatures of relationships. Without supportive and loving others around us, the human mind cannot survive long. Neonates maladapt in the absence of emotionally attuned and available primary care-givers. Likewise, adults can fall apart when the most important relationships in their world become irreparable. It's been said that almost all psychiatric/psychological disorders began as a relationship problem; be it the love totally withheld, conditionally given or a substitute relationship with addictive substances, such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, and so on. The quality of your close relationships decides your mental wellness or stress. In fact, relationship is thought to account for Continue reading
Anger is an adaptive survival energy that has been part of our innate coping mechanisms as humans. If safely and properly channeled, it could be a potent force for change. For example, thousands of charitable causes have been established as a result of redirected anger for the common good. Likewise, millions of relationships have been salvaged because someone somehow refused to let the survival brain overpower the rational, relational and logical brain in the heat of the moment. Although anger can be a powerful force for change, it can also be extremely destructive if handled wrongly and allowed to become Continue reading
Your fight/flight response is an adaptive survival energy that gets triggered whenever you're threatened or stressed. If you get stressed out a lot, that means your stress response is probably working too hard. This is something you have to do something about if you are to maintain or regain wellness. Why? Simply because overactive and chronic stress response has been linked to a variety of biological and mental health issues including cardiovascular dysfunction, digestive issues, hypertension, diabetes, Alzheimer's disease, obesity, anxiety, depression, etc. By turning on your stress response for too long without viable outlets for turning it off, the Continue reading
There are two regions of the brain critical to memory formation and retrieval; the pre-frontal cortex (PFC) and the hippocampus. The PFC, the boss of the psyche, encodes memory via the excitations of its numerous synaptic networks, while the hippocamus, often refered to as the major memory centre, consolidates memories through its short-term and long-term memory compatments. Unfortunately, chronic stress exposure, including repeated trauma, affects these two regions of the brain. Under intense stressors, the PFC loses its neuronal access to integrative memories that could have prevented a cascade of fight-or-flight responses, while the hippocampus' nervous projections shrivel and retract Continue reading